Mary James

How 'All Or Nothing' Thinking Keeps You Fat

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Have you ever stopped to wonder whether such thinking processes might be why it’s so hard to lose your body fat in the first place? Study after study has shown how difficult it is to lose weight and keep it off. Which means a lot of us just throw in the towel.

Weight gain might seem like a belly and diet thing, but your brain is one of the biggest obstacles to losing weight effectively. How you eat, feel, and react all influence whether or not you gain weight. Here is how your mind rules over your body and what can and should do about it.

Categorising Things

The human brain loves to categorise things in order to get them out of the way and move on to the next task. And one category the brain loves best is 'hopeless case'. In evolutionary terms, it makes sense; no use chasing a prey animal if it’s just too fast for you. And pop psychology encourages this natural tendency.

How 'All Or Nothing' Thinking Keeps You Fat

FACT: Weight gain might seem like a belly and diet thing, but your brain is one of the biggest obstacles to losing weight effectively.

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The old saw about serenity—'God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change' - is highly appealing. But we’re often too quick to throw things we can control in the present moment into the 'cannot change' category.

For instance, how many days of dieting have you given up on before 10 am — even after making some excellent decisions? If you’re offered a doughnut when you get to the office, that wonderful feeling of purity you had when you woke up to yoghurt and tea and then made it to the gym before work is 'ruined'. By lunchtime, you figure you might as well have a hamburger and dessert.

It’s an oddly religious sentiment: we treat our days as though they were souls; once stained, they’re useless, and we might as well stain them some more.

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Symptom Of Perfectionism

Many cognitive-behavioural therapists see this all-or-nothing thinking as a symptom of perfectionism. Ironically, the stronger our need to be perfect, the more likely we are to keep eating badly for an entire 24-hour period - till we get a fresh chance to be 'perfect'.

But your metabolism isn’t religious or perfectionistic; while your sugar metabolism can affect your psychological state, it is not a psychological state in itself, and it doesn’t work like one.

It doesn’t have a sense of purity. It doesn’t get angry or disgusted with itself if you put one cookie in it. And it certainly doesn’t need more cookies to keep the first one company.

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Fat And Cumulative Effects

What you weigh (and the percentage of your body fat) does not depend on how many perfect 24-hour periods you can rack up. It depends on the cumulative effects of each decision you make.

So if you can’t stop thinking of your diet efforts in terms of 'pure' and 'impure' - impure being the green light to screw up more since it’s already ruined - at least try to think of every minute as a fresh mini-day. Fine, five minutes ago was a giant mess of Oreo cookies. That doesn’t have to have any bearing on the next five-minute period!

Instead of trying to get through things one day at a time, try to surf over things hour by hour. Use that 'accepting things I can’t change' idea the right way: go ahead and accept the fact that you ate that cookie five minutes ago. That being said, the cookie has no bearing whatsoever on the cookies you will not eat in the next five minutes!

How 'All Or Nothing' Thinking Keeps You Fat

TIP: Ironically, the stronger our need to be perfect, the more likely we are to keep eating badly for an entire 24-hour period.

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The Bottom Line

Now you know better, and now you can change it once and for all by bringing in mindfulness and gradual redirection. Keep in mind, it would be easy to get perfectionistic about not being a diet perfectionist.

Until you think of your body as an organism and not a temple, fat loss is going to be a challenge. But with practice, you can learn to accept mistakes in the recent past without accepting mistakes you haven’t made yet! Being at peace doesn’t just mean forgiving yourself - it also means moving forward.

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About the Author Mary James

I am passionate about fitness, a healthy lifestyle, cooking, and well-being. This blog is about some of my thoughts that are occupying my mind and spirit daily over the last 10 years and my grand passion – weight loss and fitness, healthy lifestyle and healthy food, mindfulness and self-improvement.

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